Love

People have often asked me what I consider the hardest part of a relationship. I usually answer that it’s when a relationship is coming to an end, for whatever reason, and you have to say goodbye.

For some it feels almost like a death of sorts, like you are losing a part of your very own soul. For others it is the only way to move on in life. So what do you do when you know that the end is near? There is no easy way to say goodbye and sometimes people try to avoid it.

First of all, putting off the end only makes it that much harder to deal with. The best thing to do is to address it head on. Always say what is true in your heart and don’t hold back. The reason why people say, “The truth hurts” is because it does. Now, keep in mind that I am in no way saying that you should intentionally try to hurt someone’s feelings, but you should release any old feelings and/or sentiments in order to leave those things in the past.

Second, there is no need to get everyone involved in your personal situation. I once wrote about how a relationship is between two people and not your entire crew. So when it comes to calling it quits, there is no need to have all of your friends involved in your own personal drama.

Third, don’t act like you know how the other person is feeling. You can never know the other’s emotional state, so don’t try to make the other person feel warm and fuzzy by saying you know what they are going through. It will make you sound fake and heartless, which is never a good thing.

And finally, realize the end is never really the end. Even though you may see this as a break-up, you will quickly see that you will soon be on the road to a recovery and that moving on is for the best. Saying good-bye is never an easy thing and missing someone is inevitable.

On that note, saying goodbye to a GC&SU tradition is just as hard as well. So with sadness we must say goodbye to The Pit. Due to our ever-changing campus, The Pit will be closing at the end of this month. The wonderful staff and even more delicious food will be missed. Please go by and give them all your warmest wishes. Remember saying goodbye is never easy, but sometimes it has to be done.

Posted by Colonnade Archives on Feb 18 2005. Filed under Other. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0. You can leave a response or trackback to this entry