Love 101

We, as humans, have the ability to change due to our surroundings and environments. We change not only externally, but internally as well. And sometimes, change can be an extremely good thing.
Now don’t freak out, this article is not about how someone has to change in order to stay with another person. However, I do want to focus on when a change has occurred and it goes unnoticed. What happens when you have put forth the effort to grow and change and your partner does not notice?
Women are notorious for performing small, subtle changes and becoming upset when a guy doesn’t notice. We change our hair, our make-up, our perfume and we pout when our boyfriends don’t gush over the difference. But why is it so very important to be noticed? Sometimes the greatest act of love and kindness comes from little things we change in our behavior that go unnoticed. But just because your partner hasn’t said anything, or reacted they way you hoped they would, doesn’t mean they appreciate you any less.
When people say that it is the small things that count, it really is. You have to realize that if you do feel the need to want to change who you are for a person, that you do not change who you are entirely. No person, no matter how great you may think he or she is, is worth you changing your values and morals. And if, by fate and/or time, you do change and grow, keep in mind that the person you are with fell in love with who you were in the beginning and not necessarily who you are now.
Polonious said it best when he said “To thine own self be true.” If I could give any advise on this subject, it would be that. So remember, no good deed ever goes unnoticed. Give it time and I am sure you will see that all of your hard work is never for nothing.

Posted by Colonnade Archives on Oct 15 2004. Filed under Other. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0. You can leave a response or trackback to this entry