Love 101

Picture if you will, a man underneath a balcony proclaiming his undying love to the beautiful woman above. A romantic scene and one that actually does occur in the real world. Now picture a girl in a car, cruising around with her friends in the back seat as they circle her boyfriends’ apartment for the fourth time in a night. Now I don’t want to seem like a traitor to my sex, but we do have a tendency to go over the top for love. But wait, you guys do some crazy and sometimes illegal things, too. But when is something too much in the name of love? How do you know when your acts of romance and lust have crossed the lines to acts of desperation?

It is said by many experts in this field that love makes you do crazy things. You are not in your right mind when your heart begins to make decisions for you. And because of this, all logic tends to go out the door. Think back to high school for a moment. Did you ever do something for that special someone, out of love or a need to be closer to them? Spend you entire allowance on a gift? Do their homework? Lie, cheat and steal for them? We all have at one time or another. And looking back, hopefully you can see how stupid some of those actions are. But there are a few of us who still go out on that limb today, all for the sake of love. Now I am not saying that little tokens of affection are wrong or in any way harmful. But make sure that at the end of the day, your dignity is in tact.

The great thing about making a fool out of yourself, is that when you have the chance to reflect, you can see what went wrong and how not to make the same mistake again. But keep in mind, in order to move on you have to address your previous faults. And if you want to find someone who loves and truly respects you, then they have to be willing to make a fool out of themselves every once in while, too. So here is the rule of thumb when it comes to doing crazy things for love.

Rule number 1: Make sure you can be happy with who you are at the end of the day.

Rule number 2: Make sure the person you are with is willing to be crazy in love with you, too.

And finally, rule number 3: Make sure that whatever you get, you always get a receipt. Because you can’t make a return on your heart, but you can make a return on the four foot heart teddy bear you bought.

Are you having a tough time tackling your dating issues? Ask Desiree! E-mail colonnade@gcsu.edu.

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