Relationship realities…

“I’m every woman.”

Sorry guys, but it’s about time we had an empowering woman’s article, so ladies, this one’s for you. A friend of mine recently asked me what I thought about women asking men out. I laughed at her question, because I really thought that at this day and age, a woman should be able to walk up to a guy and say “I was wondering if we could go out sometime?”

Truth be told, guys enjoy having the pressure taken off of them when it comes to making the first move, and we get to learn how nerve racking it is for them to be that forward. There is nothing wrong with asking a man out. In fact, it’s a great way to meet people and work on your communication skills. Also how awesome will you feel, when you get his number, and it was all based on your ability to be approachable and witty?

Now, I have to warn you, just like we hate guys who come on too strong, men hate a woman who ruins the chase. Remember, we are all animals, and dating is our basic instinct to chase and conquer, so don’t let him feel that the thrill of the hunt is gone. Instead, when you’ve made the first move, play hard to get; this will keep him guessing and prevent you from looking desperate.

Also, to the women who feel that they have to do everything with their girlfriends, be warned. A group of women competing over the same guy is more vicious than any courtroom full of lawyers. Instead, try to lift each other up. Don’t see every guy as a competition; in the end, your friends are the ones who will stick by you if it all falls apart. And finally ladies, there is no need to vent on the “I hate men” campaign and watch “Waiting to Exhale” and “Basic Instinct.”

Not all men are the same, and we simply must understand this. Sure we’ve been hurt; we all have, but never be quick to dismiss the opposite sex. Keep in mind that ‘a good man is hard to find,’ and when you do find him, don’t let him go. (And vice versa for you guys!) So, the next time you and the girls are all out looking divalicious and having a great time, remember, get some guts and make a move on that cute guy across the bar. You never know, he could be the one, or at least a great dinner date.

-Desiree welcomes any comments or questions to her column, you can reach her at colonnade@mail.gcsu.edu

Posted by Colonnade Archives on Apr 4 2003. Filed under Features. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0. You can leave a response or trackback to this entry