Relationship realities…

“No happy holidays…”

Ever wonder why women make such a big deal over holidays and anniversaries? Truth be told, it’s a part of our natural upbringing. The whole magical sentiments of Christmas, and the cute puppy love romance of Valentine’s Day; these are all aspects carried over time from our childhood.

But I have wondered why men see these days of tradition and nostalgia, differently from us. First, understand that everyday is just the same for men. They see tomorrow as an extension of today, and there is no real meaning unless the day is somehow linked to family events, sports or other. But let’s give them credit ladies, if it’s really important to them, they will remember a special occasion.

So, ultimately it all boils down to what we consider an important day and what they consider important. Now, we are not saying that a one year anniversary isn’t important to a couple, but don’t expect your man to bring you balloons on the two month anniversary of your first kiss.
Also, whatever it is that men celebrate, they do so because something about that day sticks in their minds. For example, your first date was at a club where some guys got into a huge fight over a girl. Men use little things like that because it reminds them of a story. They may not remember what you wore, but they may remember how much you made them laugh; a quality every man enjoys.

Also, not everything for guys is a cause for celebration. Now, the bad thing about this is, we women see this the total opposite way. But unfortunately, there is no happy medium for this. Men don’t want to think that you have to have a special day like Valentine’s Day to prove their love for us, and they have a valid point.

So, just remember this, there are 365 days in a year, each day more special than the last because it is a new day. And whether you are with someone or not, it is something to celebrate. You don’t need a fancy dinner, or candies or flowers (although they are nice); but you do need to know that the person you are with is special. So, make it a point to make everyday a holiday, in your own special way!

-Desiree welcomes any comments or questions to her column, you can reach her at colonnade@mail.gcsu.edu

Posted by Colonnade Archives on Mar 28 2003. Filed under Features. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0. You can leave a response or trackback to this entry