Relationship realities…

“You remind me…”

So the relationship is over, but for some reason, you can’t get that person out of your mind. No matter how hard you try to forget them, it’s the little things around you that make getting over them impossible; however, when it gets to a point where you can’t seem to let go, you might have a problem.

Worse yet, what happens when you start to date someone, and all you do is compare them to your ex? How can you get over a bad relationship and move on to a good one?

Some people rush into relationships after tremendous breakups for
various reasons. It may be different for every person, but it all boils down to one thing-it’s over, let it go. The hardest thing for the person who has to be the one after “your great love,” is being constantly reminded of them. So here’s my advice on the subject.

Rule number one- Get rid of everything they gave you that is still lying around your apartment, car and life. Unless they bought you the car or house, everything else is just a distraction. There is no need to keep the pictures of the two of you from Six Flags still hanging above your bed.

Rule number two- Don’t do the exact same things you and your ex liked to do. Sure you might enjoy walking at the park, but try something different. More importantly, try something your new partner might enjoy. Nothing will help you get over your ex more than breaking out of your old routine.

Rule number three- Break all ties. The past is just that, the past; so don’t keep bringing it up. There is really no need to keep in contact with your ex unless for some major health or financial reason. Don’t call, write, email or drive slowly past their house at odd hours of the night, that’s called stalking.

And finally rule number four I cannot stress this one enough: Move on. Your past relationship did not work for a reason, and the more you bring it up, the more difficult it becomes for the person you are now seeing. The constant comparisons and the “We use to do this…” or “He/She loves…,” makes life very hard for the new person in your life.
Remember that your new someone sees something that your ex obviously didn’t see, so be happy that you’re with that person. Keep in mind that time heals all wounds and that is exactly what you need to continue on your path to relationship heaven.

Posted by Colonnade Archives on Jan 24 2003. Filed under Features. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0. You can leave a response or trackback to this entry