Relationship realities…

‘Two can play that game.’

The truth of the matter is- dating is like a game. You win some, you lose some, and in the end it’s how well you play the game which determines if you’re the winner or the loser. But have you noticed there are some people who are just better at the game than others? Those individuals who seem to get the rules of attraction and know how to play by them? Well, for the confused comes the guide to dating or what I like to call ‘The Game Day Plan.’

It’s really quite simple, women have the upper hand for this reason, we lead all our decisions by intuition. That little feeling in the pit of your stomach that makes you question whether or not to do anything, that’s our dating advantage. It is also our downfall.

Men on the other hand, have common sense. That rationale of judgment that makes you look at the whole picture, rather than the here and now. For you guys, that is also your weakness.

Now, here is where it gets tricky, like life, all rules are subject to change and are never 100 percent. But, that’s what makes the adventure all the more fun.

Rule number one, assume the opposite sex is right in all their decisions, this proves you’re open, understanding and most important, willing to compromise. Dating is like a business, it’s all about checks and balances.

Number two never try to guess the next move by the opposition. This is a common trap for women because we tend to speculate everything in life. The easiest way to overcome this is by getting involved with yourself. Find out what is attractive about you and play on that.

This leads into rule number three, find out what works for you and rock it for all it’s worth. If you are an awesome chef, impress her with your ‘Chicken Alfredo.’ If you can sing like Mariah Carey, serenade him under the moonlight. That old saying is true, “if you’ve got it, flaunt it.”

Number four, do the unthinkable. Dating is about chance and moving the cards to your favor, so go out on a limb and do something totally out of character. For example, ladies you can ask a guy out to dinner, this is not hard. It’s all about the risk. Guys do the romance thing more often. We love to know that you cried watching “Beaches,” and if anything she’ll want to console you, right?

Ok, the final rules are no brainer’s but are very important and need close attention.

There are certain things that a woman should respect and a man should respect. If you can abide by this, then the game becomes a lot easier, and you in essence will win by being knowledgeable.

Men forget things, they don’t do it on purpose, it just happens, so let it go. Women need affection, it’s our nature, it’s our way of knowing you care, and there is no way of getting around it. There are other little things, qualities that make us unique but you have to understand, it’s a part of us, and if you don’t like it, well.

The final word is this, you can bend the rules to your advantage, but what’s the fun in that? Remember that an open mind is the one that is able to see the big and little picture. Besides, no one ever said dating was easy, but it sure is a lot of fun if played correctly. So go out there, have a blast and remember, if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.

Posted by Colonnade Archives on Oct 18 2002. Filed under Features. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0. You can leave a response or trackback to this entry